In our comparison-soaked culture, it′s hard to avoid slipping into "Why can′t I" mode. When one of my colleagues (51)__________I think is not better than me published a new book, I couldn′t help (52) __________ (complain) how (53) __________ (achieve) it seemed to me and what bad luck I had. Negative feelings like this made life dark for us. How to get rid of the harmful effects of comparison needs exploring. Here′ s what I learned:

Don′ t compare your insides to someone else′ s outsides.

The first time I heard this excellent advice, I (54)__________(suffer) from terrible envy. My professor′s warning shocked me that "You have no idea what it (55) __________ (take) for them to get there". Don′t just owe it to pure luck. Instead, you should fad out what′s really going on behind the scenes.

She was absolutely right, yet it′s much (56) __________ (easy) to envy what they′ve got than it is to ask the serious question: What are they modeling for me? What have they done to get (57) __________ they are today? When we reflect (58)__________ these questions, we shift immediately out of comparison mode and turn inwards.

Transform comparison into celebration.

Admiration and envy are responses pointing us toward what we value most. And once we become aware of what we value, we are much better positioned (59)__________ (create) a richly satisfying life. If you notice yourself admiring people who take creative risks, bring your full attention to the part of you that wants to be braver.

Use the success of others as a mirror.

Next time you catch yourself admiring or envying someone′s success, take a moment to consider: What qualities in them inspire me? Where do I presently display these qualities? Remember the light we see in (60) __________ can help us see our own.

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